It’s definitely an uncomfortable thing to do. However, making funeral arrangements for yourself eliminates a lot of stress and anxiety for the family members, who are left to guess what you may have wanted. This, says the Leesville Daily Leader in the article “Planning for the end of your life” lets you make the decisions.
When considering end-of-life care for loved ones here are some of the things to consider:
- Do you want to be buried or cremated?
- Do you want a funeral or a memorial service?
- What music do you want to be played?
- Do you want flowers, or would you prefer donations to a charity?
- Do you want people to speak or prefer that only a religious leader speak?
- What clothing do you want to be buried in?
- Have you purchased a plot? A gravestone?
- Who should be notified about your death?
- Do you want an obituary published in the newspaper?
There are also estate matters that need to be attended to before you pass. Do you have a will, power of attorney, healthcare power of attorney, or a living will? Make sure that your family members or your executor know where these documents can be found.
If you do not have an estate plan in place, now is the time to meet with an estate planning attorney and have a plan created.
Your family will also need to be able to access information about your accounts: investment accounts, credit cards, utility bills, Social Security, pension, retirement funds and other assets and property. A list of the professionals, including your estate planning attorney, CPA and financial advisor, along with the names of your healthcare providers, will be needed.
If you are a veteran, you’ll need to have a copy of your DD-214 in your documents or let family members know where this is located. They will need it, or the funeral home will need it, when applying for burial benefits from the Department of Veterans Affairs and the National Cemetery Administration.
If you wish to be buried in a national cemetery, you’ll need VA Form 40-10007, Application for Pre-Need Determination of Eligibility for Burial in a VA National Cemetery. This must be completed and sent to the National Cemetery Scheduling Office. Include a copy of the DD-214 with the application.
End-of-life care for loved ones grieving in your family may find discussing these details difficult, but when the time comes, they will appreciate the care that you took, one last time, to take care of them.